As I move through this episode of cancer, 3 themes continue to pop up:
In fact, the topic of “boundaries” birthed my whole fund raising campaign.
In this e-mail, I want to look at responsibility and forgiveness.
2 True Stories: One morning, as my Sun and his 2 friends were getting ready to leave the house, one of them bumped the wall that separates my office and the bathroom they were in, knocking down pictures, other knick-knack’s… & breaking 2 glass enclosed candles.
Glass was everywhere.
I was furious. (I erupt over the small things, these days.)
At the top of my lungs I asked “which one of you fuckers slammed into the wall?”
(Mother of the year? NO. But I assure you, this is not how I normally treat mine or anyone else’s kid’s – in case you are wondering.)
One kid, I’ll call him “Tom”, ran towards my office offering to help clean up. So I knew it wasn’t him.
The other 2, fled the scene like roaches when the light is turned on.
I asked the other friend “Where you in the bathroom?” Wide eyed, he assured me he was not.
Then I asked my Sun, who informed me that he didn’t bump into the wall.
“Were you in the bathroom?” I repeated.
THAT was when I railed on him, in front of his friends, giving them all lesson on “manhood”.
“A definition of a real man (or real woman, for that matter) is taking full responsibility for your actions.”
Then I turned to my Sun and said “Yes, I’m mad, and I’ll get over it. What broke meant nothing. What bothers me most is that you allowed me to yell at your friends and did not take responsibility for your actions. What kind of friend does that?”
I apologized to the boys, and they (eagerly) left.
Within minutes, my Sun texted an apology, and admitted to being too scared to tell me. (He never saw me have a fit like that).
I thanked him, told him I loved him, and asked him to apologize to his friends for me again.
Fast forward…I had an appointment to get my hair done, after taking the time to go to the salon for a consultation a week prior. I get to the salon and wait an hour before the stylist informs me that the client in her chair was late, and…could I reschedule my appointment.
Furious, I did, and then realized I had no desire for her to touch me.
She blamed her client for being late, as opposed to taking responsibility for choosing to take her, and choosing to waste an hour of my time.
Here’s the thing: Forgiveness is easy to offer when you take responsibility for your actions. Blaming someone else, the circumstance or anything/one else, is a harder pill to swallow. It is a sign of spiritual and emotional immaturity. And I won’t tolerate it in my child, never mind an adult.
Am I saying I am perfect?
Nope. I fuck up all the time. It is part of the human experience.
Our opportunity is to balance our divinity with our human-ness so that we can raise the collective consciousness of the planet.
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