Okay – so I’m hanging out with a couple of friends in Plaza-Midwood, and after one drink my friend declares that a new waitress is in order. And then proceeds to speak to the hostess to get one.
Fast forward, within minutes, she recalls how, while getting her manicure earlier that day, she had to request a new manicurist because the manicurist she had wasn’t following her directions.
Serendipitously, during our conversation she brings up control issues that people in her sphere of influence unknowingly have.
I suggested to her what a coincidence it was that she needed two replacements (waitress and manicurist) in the same day.
Her response was: “I need to make sure that my boundaries are strong”.
At 1:00 am. (After too many cocktails, and interesting interruptions), I took my leave and contemplated the conversation on my drive home.
I realized that she, like many of us, have no idea how much of our shit we project on others.
Last year I hosted an event with Hawaiin Kumu, Ramsey Taum. I vividly remembered the message of this simple statement we were to ask ourselves when triggered: “What is it about me that allows me to be triggered by what you do or say to or around me?” (Ok, actually, I’m paraphrasing, cuz I don’t remember it verbatim, but you get the idea).
It was obvious to me that my friend’s control issues were dominant in her life. It was also obvious to me that, as a “Spiritual Savant”, she could not see where it applied to her and determined that the problem lay in those around her.
After this observation, I had to now look at myself. (What about this situation, that was annoying me, was also true for me?)
Pregnant Pause. Hmmmmm…..
All of us, (or at least the people I know) are guilty of complaining about those around us without any recognition of how or where we are guilty of that which we are judging.
The easiest remedy available to all of us is our ability to review our personal complaints with the people around us.
Here’s the thing: The spiritual reason for ALL relationships is growth. And if you’re anything like me, not all of your relationships are rainbows and unicorns.
3 Steps to Soul Healing
1. Take a look at your life right now, and who/what you complain about.
2. Now look in the mirror and discover where these complaints apply to you. Recognition is the first step.
3. Continue to observe and address the only person you can control:
(The person in the mirror.)
*A tool that can support you with this is the Lumin8 Healing Oracle. Discover which field and chakra your healing opportunity lies. Next, call on 3 – 5 of the various energies included in the deck to support you on your healing journey.