Let’s take a little break from spells to review a subject that – in my opinion, tends to be the “elephant” in the room.
Codependence, defined is a behavioral condition in a relationship where one person enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement.
I see this behavioral condition among the religious and the spiritual.
Examples include those who think Jesus will save them from their shitty job or shittier relationship, yet they are unwilling to help themselves by looking for another job, getting a new skill or walking away from the relationship. In this scenario, praying becomes a short-cut to the practical action involved in accomplishing a specific outcome.
Another example is when people use magick to make someone specific love them. (Side Note: I don’t know about you, but if I have to do magick to make someone love me, they obviously are NOT “The One”.) In this case, self-love rituals would be my starting point, followed by one of the love rituals I wrote about earlier.
Jesus, The Universe, (or whatever you call the powerful force behind miracles) tends to help those who are so passionate about their desires they believe they deserve it and are doing something practical in the direction of their dreams.
A core characteristic of codependency is poor self-esteem and excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity.
A few healthy steps to healing Spiritual Codependency include:
- Stop negative thinking. It should go without saying that you must believe what you desire is what you deserve.
- Be honest with yourself. If you are not willing to do practical steps to help yourself, how can magick (or Jesus) support you?
- Establish personal boundaries around what type of magick you are willing to take responsibility for. All magick comes with a price. I’m not talking about “selling your soul” – but I will state what I believe is obvious. This is a quantum world we live in. Energetic exchanges support energetic balance.
With the best things in life, there really are no shortcuts.