In my last newsletter, I shared how naturally guarded I am. I recently explained to a friend that when people give me compliments, my first thought is, “What do you want?”
I recognize a similar skepticism in many of my single female friends, who continue to hold onto old ideas of what a relationship should be based on fairytale romances. Upon meeting “normal men” (not the strong “shining armor” types) – they lack the ability and patience to take the time to determine if Mr. Normal can be Mr. Right.
No – we should never settle. We should lower expectations, not our standards.
We also must open ourselves up to love. Like many women, I have experienced years of disappointment in my search and have learned to take responsibility for my part in my journey. Opening yourself to love means being vulnerable. But vulnerability is a strength, and it allows you to be honest enough with yourself so you can help yourself.
Sometimes we need to prepare ourselves to receive love. In this simple incantation, it is useful to recite before a date or while getting over a bad breakup:
I am a child of the universe. I am worthy of love. I opened myself to love so that it may enter my heart. I will extend myself to the love I wish to receive from the world. Shield my heart from those who would use it for evil, but always allow it to be open to those who come seeking with compassion.
I think of rituals as moving prayers, and the ritual below is designed to support you in opening yourself up to love.
- Place two walnuts in front of a pink or red candle.
- Dress the candle with Love and Come to Me Oil.
- Anoint one walnut with Love Oil and the other with Come to Me Oil.
- Surround yourself and the candle with roses.
- Sit quietly, take a deep breath, and recite this:
Come to me, Love,
come to me
I am open
I am free
Come to me
Come to me, Love
I am waiting patiently.
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